When I think of ‘quitting’, my mind automatically jumps to failure. Giving up has become something of a dirty notion. We’re not supposed to quit. We’re supposed to keep going tirelessly, sometimes pointlessly.
Instead, I like this idea of just releasing a behaviour you’ve repeated and repeated habitually. Quitting it.
Now, the way that’s written, it makes it sound so easy to do. Just stop. Just stop doing that same old crap.
If only it were that easy. But maybe it could be.
The first step is identifying what you want to stop and setting the intention to let it go.
What to quit?
For my part, here’s my new lasts list for the coming year.
– Worrying what people think of me. (Ha! Let’s see how that goes, shall we?)
– Worrying that I’m always the one initiating ideas.
– Not saving money.
– Writing boring cop-out how-to blog posts.
– Not calling people about an idea to do something.
– Making excuses about exercising.
– Hiding from opportunities where I can show up big in the world.
– Eating Twisties.
– Buying the cheap flights with no luggage allowance.
– Feeling guilty about living far away from lots of family and friends.
– Ignoring old debts.
– Being scared of committing to living alone and having responsibility for a place of my own.
So there. I’ve said it. Lots of things I’ve been afraid of that I have to get the eff over.
But having a great long list of lasts is already looking like a big old effort and the inevitable is happening. I’m already starting to talk myself out of many of them.
I could just take less luggage. I don’t really need a place of my own. It might be nice to have flatmates for company sometimes. I don’t need to think about my student loan until August. Etc, etc.
Silly old self-talk. Back again.
That’s why the second step is finding the right support.
Just like any New Year’s resolutions, my good intentions soon could dwindle without some tools to keep up the continuity. Quite often, we start out on something and get distracted by something else. And until this year, I had no means of creating new habits, turning negative into positive thoughts, permanently altering my mindset and shifting things for good.
I couldn’t do it without coaching
Coaching has tipped my world upside down. In a good way.
I’ve learned that everything, absolutely everything I need is inside me. Nothing will begin to change until I look inside myself for the answer. And best of all, nothing stands in the way of what I want except myself. And I have the power to stop getting in my own way and start releasing what is blocking me.
I was recently asked who I’d like to teach me in the coming year. For the things I’d like to learn, here’s my dreamiest of dream teams.
It’s no secret I love her style and all that she does. So she’s in.
To help get my sub-conscious on board with my conscious dreaming. Hypnosis-style.
Creating Fame? How irresistable does that sound? Genius.
One seriously sorted chick with wisdom on peace and creating inner harmony. Yes, please, I’ll have some of that.
Step three is stop talking and start doing!
Taking action starts by taking action
So it’s time to create your own. What do you want to give up? Who do you need to help you do it? What sort of support are you looking for? And most of all, when are you going to make the leap?
Ready to take action? Tell me below what changes you’re keen to make, whose help you’re enlisting, and what you’re going to do today to get started stopping.